So I had the chance this Mother’s Day to spend some quality time with my daughter who is 5 going on 20 some days. I loved the chance to sit down and spend some time with her, see how the world looks from her eyes. It got me thinking about how she views the world right now and it made me hope she never loses these views she does have….
1. Right now the world is full of opportunities – when she looks out the window, she doesn’t see a gloomy, rainy day ….she sees a chance to play in rain puddles. When she sees a pile of leaves to be raked or a pile of snow to be shoved, she doesn’t see the work but rather sees a castle that can be built or a tunnel she can crawl through.
2. Right now she can be scared but it doesn’t hold her back – she rode a bike for the first time last week and she was like Mario Andretti on it. She didn’t worry about falling down, in fact she did multiple times, but she got up, dusted herself off, and got back on again. She tried rollerskating for the first time and again, while I saw the multiple chances for her to fall and get hurt, she saw a chance to fly. Did she fall down?? Multiple times, but again it did not slow my girl down and I am afraid a career in roller derby might be in her future.
3. Right now she doesn’t care what others think of her – some mornings she picks her own ensembles out and I cringe. Striped leggings, polka dotted skirt and a bright pink or orange shirt with her pink rubber boots (and before you wonder, no it is not raining – they just have pink flowers on them) I look and think “seriously her teacher or the other moms are going to wonder what is going on” but she doesn’t care, she thinks she is beautiful and that’s all that matters.
4. Right now she is not afraid to hide her feelings – she will hug anyone and everyone around her classroom at the end of the day, she sprinkles out “I love yous” like confetti to those she cares about, she cries passionately when her brother won’t give her the time of day (even though he is 25 and has his own things going on) She hasn’t learned to put that wall up and hide what she truly feels, it’s all out there in the open for anyone to see and she is okay with that.
All these things got me thinking about how lucky she is right now to view the world this way. It made me wonder about when that changes for kids, when do they start seeing the limitations, the risks of failure, the worry about how others will see them. It made me sad to think that someday this amazing view she has of the world may change. Yes, she will need to grow up, but hopefully that doesn’t mean she will completely lose this awe and wonder she has of the world right now. Because you know what, it is contagious and it makes me want to look at the world a little more like this too.